A big hello to those of you who continue to follow my blog and a howdy to those of you who are new. I have not written anything in a few days. The struggle is real, between working on my Kickstarter campaign, book two, and the day-to-day life, I have been a bit exhausted. Like most, when you are trying to make the impossible possible, it can be taxing, more mentally then physically. While listening to one if my favorite rendition (Lauryn Hill) of the song A Change is Gonna Come, there was a particular line that always struck a chord with me, especially when I was feeling down and almost out for the count. The line goes, “there were times when I did not think, that I would last for long, but now we think we’re able to carry on. Key word “we”.
We is a very powerful word to me. As much as we always hear, you have to be self-sufficient or you don’t need anyone else to be happy, people often forget that wewere built biologically to be a team. I promise you will see my point soon so stay with me here. I was having a conversation with an amazing friend and she was so pissed because there was a guy entering the onramp to the highway like he was running from the cops and almost caused an accident. This sparked a conversation that led to us both asking, why are there so many inconsiderate people out there? I immediately stated, it’s because we are being taught to be that way. It’s all about the me these days. Even the best of the best motivational speakers heavily relies on the me/I approach. Now I’m not saying there is anything wrong with the idea of being self-sufficient, however, in doing so, we become more selfish and less thoughtful people.
There always has to be a balance. The single most important thing in the word that I value the most, is my connection to those who I hold dear. Think about it. You can have all the money in the world and do everything that you heart desire. But what does any of those things count for if you have no one to share them with. If you have been following my blogs, you know that I am the kind of person that will give you the shirt off my back If you were cold. I feel that nothing in life is worth more than having a connection with those around us. Imaging the word if the majority believed in equality and placed value on supporting others.
I have always been the guy who never ask for help because I would try my hardest to not be a burden to anyone and always believed that I needed to be the one to help others, I guess a bit of a hero complex. The sad part to that was that in a past relationship, the girl I was dating was a bit sad because she felt I robbed her of the joy of being there for me, because I never asked for help with anything, not even cooking. I mentioned that because it can become easy to only think of what you want which can cause you to unconsciously become selfish which can have a larger impact on your entire life. I believe that if we can change the concept of the “I” to the “we”, not only would our own lives improve, but we would also help to improve the lives of others, especially those we care for.
Imagine how great you would feel if all of your friends, seeing your struggle, one day come to you and ask, “I see you trying to accomplish such and such, how can I help?” I am pretty sure you would feel amazing on top of probably getting to your goals quicker. Now imagine that you have a friend and you did that for them. I am that guy, when I see anyone that I know doing anything, I ask, hey how can I help. There are even times I may not even ask, I just do. I strongly believe that if we all begin to adapt this sort of tribal mentality, we can help bring this world one step closer to a better place much like the premise behind the famous Star Trek. If you are unfamiliar with the series, basically part of the plot was that mankind reached a point where they solved all of earths problems with war and such and was able to dedicate resources to space exploration.
With all that said, it brings me back to the title of the blog. I believe if enough of us adopt the idea of the “we” Change will come. I highly recommend listening to the song and maybe like me, it will speak to your heart and soul. https://youtu.be/_71MR8Fd6oY